Anthere wrote:
Autism can go to being extremely asocial (such as not
speaking, reacting
violently to touch, refusing exchange with other individuals, having
repetitive behavior... these autists are unlikely to have a job or a
family) to having light troubles in interacting with others.
An autist is more likely not to have a love relationship with someone else.
But even if he does, he can be someone who will not be very warm toward
spouse, perhaps not appreciate physical touch a lot. I guess this can be a
the same time an issue both in terms of verbal and non verbal
communication.
I guess they are often qualified nerds because they deeply engaged
themselves in activities which do not require to much human contact, or, at
least activities where they can choose to be in contact or *not* in contact
with others (single game playing, stamp gathering, gardening...). I think
for most autists, the vibes sent by other humans have a huge impact and are
very overbearing. They sort of flood their mental and prevent them from
properly functionning. In front of this, an extreme solution is to build
barriers, refuse contact entirely, to the point of not understanding the
society. A less extreme relief solution is to give time to activities which
can relieve them from the psychological pressure provided by other human
beings. A sort of blank out relief. A routine activity helps forget the
environmental noise.
I do not think that means they cant have a boyfriend/girlfriend, but it is
likely they will get one not requiring too much interaction from them. I'd
say the spouse should probably understand the need of the autist to have
times of isolation and his requirement for a very regular life. Anything
getting largely out of the routine seems to be very hard to handle for the
autist.
ant
Thanks Anthere, couldn't have explained it better. I must emphasise however
that not all of them suffer from the same symptoms, but need for occasional
isolation is indeed very common. On the other hand, I personally feel the
need of contact with other people as well, as I am a member of a student
fraternity, for example. But... one remains strange anyway...:)
Wouter
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