It is extremely disappointing, and *extremely typical* of the Wikimedia movement, to see an entire thread like this dedicated to supporting someone who Trust & Safety has found to have acted in such a way that they had to intervene. It is even more disappointing to see a person who was affected by his actions told "this is not your story" and "it may help you when you grow some sensitivity and respect this experience, the feelings of others."
If you're wondering why women leave the Wikimedia movement, and why Wikimedia has such a bad harassment problem in general, just reflect on this thread.
Thank you, Molly, for expressing what I was just trying to summon the energy to write.
Chris