"Don't be a dick" is in the eye of the beholder, so to speak. =8^o

Here's an opt-in proposal, have it appear on the FIRST edit from any IP or registered user INSTEAD of a [Save Page] button - button is grayed out until all these checks are checked:

== Editor opt-in ==

__ No spam

__ No vandalism

__ No off-topic contributions

I, ~~~~, agree, signed: __________.

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Keep it simple. Get on with it.

Oh, and by the way, admins are held to the same standard, where deleting something that's not spam, not vandalism, not off-topic is itself considered vandalism(!), your deletion shall be undeleted, your admin license shall be revoked, return to square one to try again just like every other newbie.

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== Report abuse page ==

__ admin

__ editor

__ deleted non-spam, non-vandalism, non-off-topic contribution

__ banned user __________

Please review, link: __________

Signed ~~~~: __________

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... Then let the public participate!

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== Admin opt-in ==

__ put spam, vandalism, and off-topic contributions in a delete queue for review for other admins and the public, three reviewers, or majority, which ever is highest, must agree

__ put user in a temporary block queue, include reference link, three reviewers, or majority, which ever is highest, must agree

__ clearly explain your problem with the contribution

__ never resolve your own arguments with deletion and banning, instead defer to other admins and the public

I, ~~~~, agree, signed: __________.

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I think people are easily distracted by "be civil" and the like. Some people think that means don't argue, or don't revisit a discourse more than once, or don't repeat yourself. Admins are the worst offender against "don't be a dick", including posting a web page saying "don't be a dick". That one should go - but that's an editing choice, not a spam / vandal / off-topic situation.

All else is setting examples. For instance, I'd like to learn how to be patient, tolerant, accepting, and show equivalent consideration to all other contributors. What are you all working on?