[I am purposefully leaving out the previous content.]
There are times and spaces where the most honourable of people fail to get along, and while it is unfortunate and/or as inconvenient as it may be, it is what it is. There are some communities where people are unable to or fail to identify boundaries, and/or fail to be able act within the boundaries expected by a community. That is not to judge either set of parties, it is just about incompatibilities, and separation is a well-founded means of risk management, especially from a little corner of the world that is wiki-editing. Sometimes with separation, and growth and development of the community and the individual, there is the ability for a future reconciliation. Being right is not necessarily helpful, and vice versa.
Mailing to such public forum as you did may help you to understand something, however, I am not sure that it is particularly helpful. It is clear that you don't have an understanding of the matter in its history or its context, and rather than learning by the old-fashioned means of trawling through the data, and reflection, jumping up in the centre of a publicly archived, and widely distributed forum shows a level of naivety, and simplicity in the approach. There are simply some acts that should not be undertaken while standing up in front of a group of people.
... or there is the old saying of "let sleeping dogs, lie"
Regards, Billinghurst
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