Hi Rebecca,
These conversations can be stressful for many of us, including me.
Speaking up in public can take courage. Thank you for participating here, and I encourage you to continue to participate even if you are in the minority regarding a certain discussion.
I know that this can be difficult to do, and it's sometimes difficult for me to do, but please be careful about linking strong opinions with assuming bad faith on the part of the people who state those opinions. Sometimes there are good reasons for assuming bad faith, but I think that it's easy for many of us, including me, to rush to the conclusion that someone who disagrees with me may be acting in bad faith.
I am sorry if you feel that you are not welcome here. Public discussions can be rough, but personally I think that they are usually for the best.
I hope that my comments here are somehow encouraging.