So, pretty much every discussion is decided by those who choose to participate in it. I don't know any way around that; we can't force people to participate. At some point, if you don't stick your hand up, you don't get counted.
Well, Maria Sefidari (Raystorm) showed up and ended up being faced with a torrent of abuse.
If you don't stick your hand up, your views are invalid. If you do stick your hand up, people will shout at you about how invalid your views are. Particularly if you're a woman.
I don't know what lesson we're all supposed to draw from this....