Hi Aron,
I see this as a fundamental issue, that's strongly related to why so much harassment (and lesser forms of incivility) are part of our everyday editing experience (I'm talking about less-known members of the community, who aren't protected by their established status, not us). Those differences can't be dealt with anger, but only with level-headed, honest and just moderation.
I entirely agree with this. In fact, this is why the movement strategy recommendations put emphasis on creating shared expectations (through the movement charter) as well as methods of conflict resolution.
Chris