Thanks for a nice tasty bikeshed on a technical mailing list.
I assume your good faith, and I foresee its consequences. You couldn't employ your NVC skills because you were, quote, in a hurry, end quote. That means, NVC just doesn't work when it's needed. I don't think everyone here has a lot of spare time to mix original thoughts with a dump of meaningless requests and pardons. You want to share how you feel? I don't think it's the right place to do this. Don't ask to ask, just ask, and so on.
On Tue, Feb 18, 2014 at 5:38 PM, Derric Atzrott < datzrott@alizeepathology.com> wrote:
Question for Derric: why didn't you formulate your suggestion using NVC?
I was excited and in a hurry. In retrospect I really think that I should have.
After reading some of the replies I felt rather disappointed and frustrated, and even a little sad as I didn't feel my need for understanding was met.
In the future I will try to take a little more time writing emails to the list. I'm sorry to anyone who felt offended by it or felt that my email was, well, violent. That was not my intention at all. I just began myself looking into and trying to practice NVC in the past six months or so, and I am, as of now, still not terribly great at it.
Again, I want to express my apologies, and I really hope that I didn't turn anyone off to the subject. I guess all I was really trying to say in that email is that when conversation on this list gets heated, I feel frustrated because my needs for calm and community are not met. I end up not wanting to participate because I don’t think that I will be heard or understood. I would like to request that people onlist look into strategies to help everyone get along, whether that is AGF, or NVC, or something else, does not matter as much to me. I suggested NVC because it has been a very useful tool for me in the past.
Thank you, Derric Atzrott
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