On Thu, Aug 9, 2018 at 2:13 AM, MZMcBride z@mzmcbride.com wrote:
Are you sure about that? I think the Code of Conduct Committee _is_ arguing that it's the use of the word "fuck" that was problematic here. If I had written "Why did you do that?!" instead of "What the fuck.", do you think I would have had my Phabricator account disabled for a week?
As Alex asks on this mailing list: is using the abbreviated "wtf" form now considered a formal offense in tasks and commits? I genuinely do not know.
The main problem here that needs to be solved is communicating what the problem was in a manner that is clear to the parties whom the CoC committee seeks to deter. A one-week ban is not going to help anything if the object of the ban doesn't understand what about his behavior elicited the ban.
From my experience in this type of thing, some people don't understand
what is meant by non-constructive forms of communication, and don't know what types of statements will cause the person they're speaking to to be upset and angry, nor how to rephrase them in a constructive fashion. This is something that takes quite a lot of practice, and that fact might not be apparent to those who are naturally more sensitive. It's also something that comes naturally to someone who's in a good mood and favorably disposed to the one they're speaking to, and can be very difficult for the same person when he's angry.
Perhaps a member of the CoC committee should go over the scenario with MZMcBride and discuss with him what alternative ways he should have taken to address the problem, and what exactly the problem was with how he did it.