On Aug 16, 2012, at 7:18 PM, MZMcBride z@mzmcbride.com wrote:
Ryan Lane wrote:
What is your plan to clean up the mess you made?
I need to call you out on this MZ. This is an incredibly rude way to phrase this.
I get that our community tends to accept this kind of behavior, but I think we should really put effort into coming up with some method of discouraging people from acting this way.
What would have been a politer way to phrase the question? I originally wrote "when are you going to clean up the mess you made?", but I rewrote it.
"the mess you made".
Right there, in that phrase, you have aggressively indicated the following:
a) That you believe someone fucked up; b) That you think they're incompetent; c) That you think they're being lazy about it
None of that is helpful.
This communication style typically causes the exact opposite response from what you apparently want to have happen. I can't speak for others, but when someone talks to *me* this way, I start tuning them out.
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