I've noticed that enwp has a *lot* of sexuality-related userboxen. Some of these are innocuous or positive (i.e. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/LGBTsupport), some seem to be a bit over-share-y (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/abstinence_reluctant), and some seem downright creepy to me ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/girlfriendwish). When you put them together (for example, as found on the - real but anonymized - userpage excerpt here http://gyazo.com/fa31a70c0b5bf29600a3058ae6dc4d6e), you can very easily end up with what feels like a very, very sexualized userpage, which means a very, very sexualized user experience for anyone who visits that page. Reading the userpage that screenshot came from, for example, gave me the feeling that anyone female who speaks to that user is going to be evaluated for their sexual usefulness to the user.
Userboxen can be a sensitive issue, historically speaking, and everyone seems to draw the line differently between appropriate ones and inappropriate ones. I'm interested in getting some thoughts on where the line is, and on whether the ones that cross the line inappropriately sexualize the atmosphere on the project. My personal feeling is something along the lines of "Speaking out about your sexual identity is good, but I don't want to hear about what specific sexual characteristics you have or want your sexual partners to have". I'd welcome the lists's thoughts on whether any, some, or none of the following userboxen (not an exhaustive list of sexuality-related ones, just some I've pulled out as good examples of the question) are appropriate to have hosted and used on our projects:
- Abstinence: - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/abstinence ("This user practices abstinence but still has a healthy sex drive thank you very much.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/abstinence_sex_drive ("This user practices abstinence but still has a healthy sex drive thank you very much.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/abstinence_not_SRT ("This user practices abstinence for religious reasons, but disagrees with the Silver Ring Thing.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/abstinence_unsure ("This user practices abstinence but is not sure whether through shyness or through moral choice.") - Fetishes/philias/sexual identity: - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/aquaphile ("This user is an aquaphile.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Dark_Tichondrias/Userboxes/User_Cross-dres... user enjoys cross-dressing.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:ISD/Userboxes/Dominant ("This user is a dominant." - also available in sub) - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Oxguy3/myboxes/Straight_not_narrow(%22This user is straight, but not narrow.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Cadwaladr/Userboxes/Pornography(%22This user enjoys pornography.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/slut ("This user is a slut.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/swinger ("This user enjoys a varied sex life.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/yiff ("This user loves yiff, and is probably a furry.") - Preferences for sexual partners: - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Bluedenim/Blondes ("This user considers blond hair to be attractive." - also available for brunnettes, redheads) - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/girlfriendwish ("This user wishes [they] had a girlfriend") - Miscellaneous sexuality-related: - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/safesex ("This user supports and encourages the practice of safe sex.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:UBX/sex ("This user enjoys sex.") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:TBM10/Uncircumcised ("This user is proudly uncircumcised") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Sugar_Bear/Userboxes/User_varied_sex(%22Th... user enjoys a varied sex life. (Alternating between hands constitutes varied, right?)") - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Template:User_Single ("This user is single")