I know PZ and his atheism might not be to everyone's taste, but apparently atheist organizations are also struggling with a gender gap. He made a post on his blog yesterday that really resonated with me. The full post is herehttp://scienceblogs.com/pharyngula/2011/02/feminist_hypersensitivity_or_m.php, but what really resonates with me is this bit:
"You want women to find your organization pleasant and interesting and worth contributing to? Then don't form panels full of men trying to figure out what women want, talking over women who try to get a word in edgewise, belittling women's suggestions with jokes, and trying to determine how We Well-Meaning Men can give Those Women what we think they want."
Listen to the women instead of talking over them, guys. Seriously.
-fluff
I couldn't agree with this statement more. I think that even of this list, w have been seeing a little bit of this phenomena. Diversity of opinion is great but maybe some of us (me included) could lurk a bit and give new people more of an incentive to talk.
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On Feb 17, 2011, at 4:57 PM, ChaoticFluffy chaoticfluffy@gmail.com wrote:
I know PZ and his atheism might not be to everyone's taste, but apparently atheist organizations are also struggling with a gender gap. He made a post on his blog yesterday that really resonated with me. The full post is here, but what really resonates with me is this bit:
"You want women to find your organization pleasant and interesting and worth contributing to? Then don't form panels full of men trying to figure out what women want, talking over women who try to get a word in edgewise, belittling women's suggestions with jokes, and trying to determine how We Well-Meaning Men can give Those Women what we think they want."
Listen to the women instead of talking over them, guys. Seriously.
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Thanks, I really appreciated that. I wouldn't say "even of this list" Sandra, I would say "especially of this list," because after all this list is supposed to be about how to get more women to participate, so it's especially annoying for women to be talked down here. I do think it's gotten better; lately I've seen more women participating and coming up with interesting ideas and being listened to, and less men explaining it all to us. But earlier, when I shared my experiences as an editor on Wikipedia, it was pretty hard going. First I was told that obviously I must be somehow provoking the conflict I was encountering by being uncivil somehow, and when I established that wasn't the case, then it went the other way and it must be that I'm too easily intimidated. Someone (a man, in all these cases) even said that it was like High Noon, the brave man being abandoned by his woman while he fights evil alone. If they couldn't make it my fault one way, and make it stick, they'd make it my fault some other way; the main thing was it had to be my fault that I was finding the editing environment unpleasant and aversive.
My sister, the dean of sciences at a university, read some of that and said, "If anyone really wanted to know why women don't edit Wikipedia, all they'd have to do is read this conversation."
Woonpton
On 2/17/11, Sandra sandratordonez@gmail.com wrote:
I couldn't agree with this statement more. I think that even of this list, w have been seeing a little bit of this phenomena. Diversity of opinion is great but maybe some of us (me included) could lurk a bit and give new people more of an incentive to talk.
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On Feb 17, 2011, at 4:57 PM, ChaoticFluffy chaoticfluffy@gmail.com wrote:
I know PZ and his atheism might not be to everyone's taste, but apparently atheist organizations are also struggling with a gender gap. He made a post on his blog yesterday that really resonated with me. The full post is here, but what really resonates with me is this bit:
"You want women to find your organization pleasant and interesting and worth contributing to? Then don't form panels full of men trying to figure out what women want, talking over women who try to get a word in edgewise, belittling women's suggestions with jokes, and trying to determine how We Well-Meaning Men can give Those Women what we think they want."
Listen to the women instead of talking over them, guys. Seriously.
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You are absoluetly correct. I was trying to be diplomatic - but yes I too was getting annoyed at the tone being used to address experiences women were sharing and the fact that more men than women seem to be participating....but I agree it seems to be getting better, and the convos more fruitful.
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On Feb 17, 2011, at 6:57 PM, Ism Woonpton woonpton@gmail.com wrote:
Thanks, I really appreciated that. I wouldn't say "even of this list" Sandra, I would say "especially of this list," because after all this list is supposed to be about how to get more women to participate, so it's especially annoying for women to be talked down here. I do think it's gotten better; lately I've seen more women participating and coming up with interesting ideas and being listened to, and less men explaining it all to us. But earlier, when I shared my experiences as an editor on Wikipedia, it was pretty hard going. First I was told that obviously I must be somehow provoking the conflict I was encountering by being uncivil somehow, and when I established that wasn't the case, then it went the other way and it must be that I'm too easily intimidated. Someone (a man, in all these cases) even said that it was like High Noon, the brave man being abandoned by his woman while he fights evil alone. If they couldn't make it my fault one way, and make it stick, they'd make it my fault some other way; the main thing was it had to be my fault that I was finding the editing environment unpleasant and aversive.
My sister, the dean of sciences at a university, read some of that and said, "If anyone really wanted to know why women don't edit Wikipedia, all they'd have to do is read this conversation."
Woonpton
On 2/17/11, Sandra sandratordonez@gmail.com wrote:
I couldn't agree with this statement more. I think that even of this list, w have been seeing a little bit of this phenomena. Diversity of opinion is great but maybe some of us (me included) could lurk a bit and give new people more of an incentive to talk.
Sent from my iPhone
On Feb 17, 2011, at 4:57 PM, ChaoticFluffy chaoticfluffy@gmail.com wrote:
I know PZ and his atheism might not be to everyone's taste, but apparently atheist organizations are also struggling with a gender gap. He made a post on his blog yesterday that really resonated with me. The full post is here, but what really resonates with me is this bit:
"You want women to find your organization pleasant and interesting and worth contributing to? Then don't form panels full of men trying to figure out what women want, talking over women who try to get a word in edgewise, belittling women's suggestions with jokes, and trying to determine how We Well-Meaning Men can give Those Women what we think they want."
Listen to the women instead of talking over them, guys. Seriously.
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