If you get a chance to see this film/documentary I can recommend it, interesting and funny. The film (funded via Kickstarter) had its European premier this week at BFI Flare, you can find information on the director's website and see the trailer on Vimeo.[1][2]
One point made by some of the gay men interviewed, was that the "internalized homophobia" of not wanting to use a non-effeminate voice came from the misogynistic attitudes imprinted during childhood on all men, that a masculine voice was a good thing as it grants power and authority.
These are difficult areas to write about or to find good sources for. It is no surprise that the section about effeminacy and gay men on the English Wikipedia is both short and out of date.[3]
Links 1. http://www.doisoundgay.com 2. https://vimeo.com/93323057 3. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effeminacy
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