On May 14, 2007, at 4:57 AM, William Pietri wrote:
> I think this is very important advice, and too rarely followed.
>
> From my layman's perspective, a lot of these difficult kooks only
> really focus on contention. Not on disagreement or thwarting them as
> such, but the social signals of contention. Maintaining a friendly and
> helpful attitude while continuously disengaging can keep you in the
> 99.9% of the world that they ignore.
>
> William
on 5/14/07 3:45 PM, jf_wikipedia at jf_wikipedia(a)mac.com wrote:
Excellent advise. I thank you for that. I have experience many of
these that *enjoy* both the attention and the contention, and feed on
it avidly. I wish I can garner the strength and clarity not to get
baited...
Jossi,
Learn your vulnerable spots - we all have them. They are like bruises on the
body; when touched > we react. Learn that reaction. When communicating with
someone, if you feel that reaction: Stop > Know what it is > Acknowledge it
to yourself > Take a breath > and Stay on subject.
People who want to manipulate you, or take you off a subject they don't want
to deal with, or consider it a sign of power over you, will push until they
find a bruise. A friend and/or someone who truly wants to communicate with
you will deliberately try to avoid any spot they think might be a bruise -
especially if they have a similar one of their own.
Marc Riddell
--
Remember: We teach people how to treat us.
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