>
> on 5/14/07 3:45 PM, jf_wikipedia at jf_wikipedia(a)mac.com wrote:
>>
>> Excellent advise. I thank you for that. I have experience many of
>> these that *enjoy* both the attention and the contention, and feed on
>> it avidly. I wish I can garner the strength and clarity not to get
>> baited...
On 5/14/07, Marc Riddell <michaeldavid86(a)comcast.net> wrote:
> Jossi,
>
> Learn your vulnerable spots - we all have them. They are like bruises on the
> body; when touched > we react. Learn that reaction. When communicating with
> someone, if you feel that reaction: Stop > Know what it is > Acknowledge it
> to yourself > Take a breath > and Stay on subject.
>
> People who want to manipulate you, or take you off a subject they don't want
> to deal with, or consider it a sign of power over you, will push until they
> find a bruise. A friend and/or someone who truly wants to communicate with
> you will deliberately try to avoid any spot they think might be a bruise -
> especially if they have a similar one of their own.
>
> Marc Riddell
>
> --
> Remember: We teach people how to treat us.
on 5/16/07 10:31 PM, George Herbert at george.herbert(a)gmail.com wrote:
Further all this, an interesting study:
http://www.ns.umich.edu/htdocs/releases/story.php?id=3209
Excess testosterone can cause you to feel happy when people make angry
faces at you...
AKA: Getting off by pissing people off :-).
Also, the emotional message, "I can affect someone".
Marc