Wheelwars usually start when the overturning of a decision is overturned. At such a time any further changes need to be discussed.
Exactly; I think that's a good guideline. If something is done unilaterally and it's reverted (e.g. blocking a user; speedy- deleting a page, moving a page, etc.), it should be discussed at least briefly before being re-instituted.
Of course, it doesn't help when our own Jimmy Wales ignores this guideline, even going so far as to use beaurocrat powers to "win" a wheel war.
You're acting like Jimbo is just another admin. He's not. He's Jimbo.