Thanks for writing this Lilli - I completely agree. Lots of opinions from people going "well this person didn't harass me" or "I don't know the specifics but maybe it's just cultural differences" or "omg the WMF has done something outrageous again" do not really help this kind of situation.
If our objective is to make sure everyone is welcome in the Wikimedia movement it's vital that something like the Friendly Space policy exists and is enforced.
Chris
One reliable way to silence people when they experience harassment as well as keeping others from speaking out, is to have them experience how other, non-involved people, would immediately have an opinion on what happened and judge the case or the person in question. This is what has happened here. It is furthermore, absolutely out of proportion to weigh ones personal irritation about some members being potentially more aware and sensitive of this topic, against a context in which harassment and violence is not the exception, but everyday reality.