On 11/14/05, Anthere Anthere9@yahoo.com wrote:
So, here I am. I am 37 years old. I am a volunteer just like you. I have two kids. I lost a baby in spring. I will have a fourth kid, hopefully early 2006. I am losing my job this week. And I am glad to be participating to Wikipedia (even if sometimes, it is a burden...). It is a good life overall :-)
Anthere
You have my deepest sympathies re losing your baby. My wife and I lost our first child - she would have been 12 next week, and I have been thinking often about here this past week since we were able to go back to where she is buried for a visit (we live in a different state now about 1800 miles away), and then I came across your note. Although we now have 4 living children, I sometimes feel the loss acutely, but I have hope for the future as I am sure you do also. I am sure you have a great support group that helped you through it all; feel free to drop me a line if you ever need to talk. I offer because sometimes people just don't understand that months/years later you may just need to rehash stuff again. I also wanted to thank you for your dedicated service and leadership on the wikipedia - especially considering the totality of the circumstances you describe above. Jim
-- Jim (trodel@gmail.com) "Our love may not always be reciprocated, or even appreciated, but love is never wasted" - Neal A Maxwell
Jim Trodel wrote:
Anthere
You have my deepest sympathies re losing your baby. My wife and I lost our first child - she would have been 12 next week, and I have been thinking often about here this past week since we were able to go back to where she is buried for a visit (we live in a different state now about 1800 miles away), and then I came across your note. Although we now have 4 living children, I sometimes feel the loss acutely, but I have hope for the future as I am sure you do also. I am sure you have a great support group that helped you through it all; feel free to drop me a line if you ever need to talk. I offer because sometimes people just don't understand that months/years later you may just need to rehash stuff again. I also wanted to thank you for your dedicated service and leadership on the wikipedia - especially considering the totality of the circumstances you describe above. Jim
-- Jim (trodel@gmail.com) "Our love may not always be reciprocated, or even appreciated, but love is never wasted"
- Neal A Maxwell
I thank you for your kind words Jim. I know other wikipedians went through this as well. And I know that the reality and the pain of the loss are not so easy to understand unless similar events have occured to self. It is much harder for you, as mine will never have a birthday.
Some months ago, I went to a wikimeet, and a wikipedian put two candles in a church. When I asked why, the answer was "one for your kid and one for mine". I hope for this one, and for others who wrote me privately, that their loss will be followed by new happiness.
Ant
I can't understand what either of you feel, being far too young to have kids of my own, but I can offer you a few minutes silence out of respect. I lost a brother before he was born, but that was even before I was born, so I don't really remember that.
The least we can offer is sympathy and understanding.
On 11/19/05, Anthere Anthere9@yahoo.com wrote:
Jim Trodel wrote:
Anthere
You have my deepest sympathies re losing your baby. My wife and I lost our first child - she would have been 12 next week, and I have been thinking often about here this past week since we were able to go back to where she is buried for a visit (we live in a different state now about 1800 miles away), and then I came across your note. Although we now have 4 living children, I sometimes feel the loss acutely, but I have hope for the future as I am sure you do also. I am sure you have a great support group that helped you through it all; feel free to drop me a line if you ever need to talk. I offer because sometimes people just don't understand that months/years later you may just need to rehash stuff again. I also wanted to thank you for your dedicated service and leadership on the wikipedia - especially considering the totality of the circumstances you describe above. Jim
-- Jim (trodel@gmail.com) "Our love may not always be reciprocated, or even appreciated, but love is never wasted"
- Neal A Maxwell
I thank you for your kind words Jim. I know other wikipedians went through this as well. And I know that the reality and the pain of the loss are not so easy to understand unless similar events have occured to self. It is much harder for you, as mine will never have a birthday.
Some months ago, I went to a wikimeet, and a wikipedian put two candles in a church. When I asked why, the answer was "one for your kid and one for mine". I hope for this one, and for others who wrote me privately, that their loss will be followed by new happiness.
Ant
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