Vicki wrote:
You and Dr. Phil are both wrong. If you toss a grenade into a crowd, you are causing conflict. Claiming that you haven't is merely an attempt to deny your responsibility for your actions.
Boy, this is getting a bit philosophical. :-)
I would say, in our context, that there are responsibilities for all parties. There's a responsibility not to cause conflict as much as we can, and there's also a responsibility not to let a conflict-causer upset us as much as we can.
For me, when I fail in these things[1], it does me a world of good to think globally and big picture about what we're trying to do here, to get in tune with the vision. This helps me to see most of our day-to-day struggles in the proper context, and to fully appreciate how wonderful everyone is who is working together on this.
Even when we disagree, we're still wikipedians. And we should try not to upset each other, and try not to be upset by each other.
--Jimbo
[1] For example, I regret snapping at Julie about her comments on Ayn Rand.