Thomas Dalton wrote:
Forgiveness
does not require any admission of wrong. If you insist
that the other person admit wrong you aren't really forgiving, because
you ignore the possibility that you may be the one who is wrong.
Forgiveness does not even require that the dispute be first resolved.
I disagree. Especially with the 2nd sentence. Forgiveness requires you
to blame the other person, you can't forgive someone if you don't
think they're in the wrong. Accepting the possibility that you might
be wrong has nothing to do with forgiveness.
In a sense yes, but blame is a private feeling. Blaming another person
is your own feeling that he has been wrong. If that blame becomes a
public act it only compounds the problem. Whether he, in fact, has done
wrong is irrelevant, and it follows from that that any admission or
apology on his part is also irrelevant.
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