on 8/27/07 9:02 PM, Matthew Brown at morven(a)gmail.com wrote:
On 8/27/07, Marc Riddell
<michaeldavid86(a)comcast.net> wrote:
Yes. Present to what the person is saying; and
not speculate on why they are
saying it.
IMO, sometimes speculating on motives is quite productive. Although
it need not be turned into posted words. For one thing, it may inform
as to whether responding to what someone's saying may be productive,
or not.
You're right, Matt. I was speaking of an actual response. But deciding
whether what's been said is worth responding to or not is a good first step.
And, as you say, if your gut tells you they are just trying to flame for its
own sake - will any response just feed that flame. Good point.
Marc