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Though it's evidently a surprise to you, I don't assiduously check the deletion log against the VfD page.
Neither do I. You check RC. You check VfD. It's quite obvious from looking at these semi-regularly that hundreds of pages are deleted without being listed on VfD.
The reason I had written "ex post facto prior discussion" was that I was attempting to move past the issue of my actions, and discuss the issue of the policy. Sound reasonable?
Just try to be a little less "unilateral", and we shall all get along nicely. I think your problem is that you always assume you alone have to protect Wikipedia from going down a spiral of abuse -- trust me, a lot of people care about this kind of abuse not happening. Try working with them.
Regards,
Erik