You characterise Danny as being "obsessed with racial purity" on a public mailing list, and say "the flame war is coming from Danny alone" and then you wonder why he doesn't see any point in talking to you?
Perhaps you could benefit from reading a few books, and they would make your time here go much smoother. "Games People Play", by Eric Berne and "Rules for Radicals", by Saul Alinsky are good for starters.
Jonathan