On Sun, May 18, 2008 at 1:54 PM, Matthew Brown <morven(a)gmail.com> wrote:
On Sun, May 18, 2008 at 6:26 AM, Thomas Dalton
<thomas.dalton(a)gmail.com> wrote:
I would say you could use her real full name
on-wiki, but only if
doing so significantly aids the project in some way (and that seems
unlikely). All else being equal, there is no reason not to follow her
wishes.
Agreed. It is polite to refer to people as they wish to be addressed,
within reasonable bounds. Deliberately using someone's real name
instead of their chosen handle is uncivil unless there's good reason
to do so.
Really? I'd say the default position is that it's fine to use
someone's real first name when addressing them, if that name is
publicly known and unless they have requested otherwise.
In this particular case I know that User:Durova does object to being
referred to by her name. So I respect that, and I generally try not
to use her name at all, pseudonym or otherwise, because I feel silly
referring to someone by their handle.
This said, "Durova" is at least a semi-reasonable handle. If someone
requested that I refer to them on-wiki as "Lord Voldemort" I think I'd
have to refuse. I say this with apologies to [[User:Lord Voldemort]].