Toby Bartels wrote:
There's also a middle way between asking people to behave and forcing them to, a middle way between hard rules and a lack of individual responsibility. Drolsi was originally hit with the demand that his name would be changed, whether he liked it or not. When people (not just me, you too, and I'm sorry that I previous post of mine implied otherwise) began to talk /with/ him, rather then /tell/ him what would be done, then he was a reasonable person and did the right thing.
There's a lesson for us all there. Toby is, without question, one of our finest, and yet he had to learn this lesson again here. I re-learn this every couple of weeks, it seems. :-)
--Jimbo