on 4/6/07 7:19 AM, Ray Saintonge at saintonge@telus.net wrote:
And before people can ask for help they have to realize that they need it.
You are right. But denial is a powerful thing.
I think a lot of these people start from the belief that they have the only right understanding of the topic.
Yes, their goal is to protect, defend and convince others of their beliefs. But what they first need to see is how their very behavior is alienating the people they are trying to convince.
In any case, it is they who need to realize they are getting nowhere in the debate; care enough about the topic to want to know why - and reach out for help with it.
In another setting: It is they who need to realize they are getting nowhere in the relationship; care enough about the relationship to want to know why - and reach out for help with it.
Marc