Nathan J. Yoder wrote:
"You are a hypocrite" is a personal attack. "You seem to apply a lenient standard to yourself and a strict standard to others" is a description of behavior, particularly if you cite examples.
Those mean the exact same thing! You just gave the definition of a hypocrite. You're making a meaningless distinction here and I seriously doubt you follow your own logic. Are you saying you've never called someone a troll or accused them of using sock puppets? Can you honestly say that you've been using a very long-winded, politically correct version of a troll accusation?
It will be useful to you if you criticise the person's behaviour rather than criticise the person. Maybe you see no distinction, but the fact is that criticising the behaviour is less likely to cause offense and lead to a flamewar.
Unfortunately Wikipedia does not provide a course in social skills for the benefit of those who can't or won't learn by themselves. In fact it's likely to be impossible to completely unambiguously codify it, which makes things vulnerable to _lawyering_ by people acting in bad faith. There is a continuous stream of people who are indistinguishable from antisocial wikilawyers. In order to differentiate yourself from those people, I'd suggest you try to make it quite clear that you're acting in good faith. Then you might escape from your present situation and give people some hope that you won't cause more trouble than your contribution to Wikipedia is worth.
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