Jimmy Wales wrote:
How about something like /Peace. You post on that page with ideas that you think would make both you and that person happier together.
This could get really Orwellian («We've had problems with this person before -- it's gotten so bad that we created a [[/Peace]] page.»). If we could count on people to start this only *after* people start arguing all over the place but well *before* people start pushing for a ban, so that the creation of [[/Peace]] indicates strictly the beginning of efforts at reconciliation, then it could avoid Orwellia, but otherwise ...!
I'm half-joking, but my point is just this: when we kick off a discussion of a problem with a page called /ban or /complaints or /problems, we cause people to go into defensive modes of behavior that can lead to ego-battles that prevent productive solutions.
OK, so you're half-joking. Given that it is (IMO) a bad idea to put these things in as subpages of a [[User talk:]] page, perhaps we should create [[Wikipedia:Peace negotiations]] (or such) as a place to hold discussions at attempts to reconcile various users that are upset at each other (for whatever reason). Specific individuals (or better, antagonistic pairs/sides) can be marked off with headers, or subpages if absolutely necessary. (But it's best if we can avoid putting usernames in the titles completely.)
-- Toby