on 9/13/07 3:59 PM, Silas Snider at swsnider@gmail.com wrote:
On 9/13/07, Marc Riddell michaeldavid86@comcast.net wrote:
On 9/12/07, Armed Blowfish diodontida.armata@googlemail.com wrote:
Erm, people may prefer to be contacted directly before being listed behind their backs. Okay, so the Google ratings of the list are not that high, considering it is hidden from Google, but still... there are mirrors not hidden from Google.
on 9/13/07 2:28 PM, Matthew Brown at morven@gmail.com wrote:
If the normal amount of communication and discussion needed to work on this project is too much and bothers your sense of privacy, kindly find something else to do.
Matthew,
Enough is enough! If you had been sitting across from this person would you have said this exact same thing to their face?
And, how on earth does "kindly find something else to do" advance a discussion?
Marc Riddell
Marc: I don't know about Matthew, but I definitely would (and do) say things like this to someone's face. There is nothing really 'mean' about the statement. Furthermore, the whole point of saying something like this is not to further a discussion, but to convey the idea that there is no reason to continue a discussion about something so completely trivial. Not everything has to be discussed to the ground.
Sincerely, Silas Snider
Silas,
Then say something to that effect, like "I don't see any reason to continue this discussion about something I find so completely trivial". This doesn't shut the person down and breed more anger. Perhaps, with further discussion, they could even convince you that the subject is worth discussing.
Marc