A lot of the bad atmosphere with regards to the Fleshlight is due to a confusion between whether Danny is acting independantly or acting as WP:Office.
It is confusing for wikipedians naturally. It is confusing for Danny as well, who is pressured by the phone calls and otrs messages. Who is either left alone making a decision, and later is blamed by Jimbo, Brad or whoever. Or who acts under Jimbo or Brad supervision, but is the one to receive the blame from the community later on.
Problem is that Danny has very strong convictions himself (so may not be the best to handle such requests) and is - as expected from most wikipedians - sensitive to the community feedback afterwards.
I would like to suggest that office actions - normally under Brad responsability - be actually done by Brad himself or by a future new employee, who should NOT be a wikipedian.
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