JAY JG said: [....]
the common reaction is "well, these two guys are just edit-warring, and I don't know who is right, so I'm not going to get worked up about it."
Do you expect this kind of thing to happen a lot? I mean, you expect to get into an edit war and then ask others to either come to your assistance or relax the 3RR so you are permitted to continue? I think this is a highly contentious way of interacting on Wikipedia, and not one to be condoned. Talk pages exist for a good purpose. Revert limits and guidelines counseling against edit warring also exist for a good purpose. Edit warring is *not* considered a good way of dealing with problems.