Stan Shebs wrote:
I would be ashamed to be associated with a project for which the only option is that members run and hide.
Your shame is misplaced, I think.
It's like saying you'd be ashamed to dock your boat in a marina in which the only option for coping with rising and falling tides was floating docks. Or that you'd be ashamed to live in a world in which the only option for coping with rain was umbrellas. Or that you'd be ashamed to live in a La Mancha in which the only option for coping with distracting windmills was dark sunglasses.
King Canute didn't manage to beat back the tide with his sword. Don Quixote didn't manage to slay too many windmills with his.
I am no less sorry than anyone else to say this, but: the trolls are out there. They are not going to go away. Most importantly, they are *not our fault*. To imagine that they somehow are "our fault", to pretend that we can do anything to make them go away, is a futile, perhaps even delusional folly.
In any case, running and hiding is not the only option. You can ignore them. You can stand up to them. If they threaten you in real life, you can sue them in real life for assault. (Yes, I know, these are not always easy options. But whatever option it is we're pursuing now isn't easy, either, and it's not even clear that it's working.)
In my book, what's not an option is to react to the trolls and the harassers and the abusers and the Daniel Brandts with anger, histrionics, or all this damn drama. They *love*, they devour, they thrive on anger, histrionics, and drama. If you decide that your appropriate response to them involves any of these elements, you hand them enormous power: they can make you jump, make you cry, make you do a little histrionic drama-dance, any time they want to, just by pushing one of your well-advertised buttons.
I refuse to give my enemies that kind of power over me. People I love and respect, maybe. But trolls and harassers don't get any buttons they can push -- if they're not worth my respect, they're certainly not worth my anger.