On 8/2/07, Andrew Gray shimgray@gmail.com wrote:
On 02/08/07, jayjg jayjg99@gmail.com wrote:
I think that sums up my feelings on this matter, too. I just cannot understand why Slim Virgin is being described as "a net detriment to the project" on account of attacks that are made by *her* by people we all recognise as either severely unbalanced or having an axe to grind. It quite disturbing.
The response you've described is so astoundingly lacking in empathy, and, frankly, wrong-headed and immoral on so many levels, that I find it frightening.
...and this is talking about an email which directly compared my comments to being a wilful apologist for rape.
It is six o'clock in the morning. I first recieved a copy of that charming email at two. I have been unable to sleep because of it. It is monstrously insulting, it is at best tangential, and it is completely inappropriate.
It is an smear and an allegation I cannot reply to, because of its scale, its implications, its emotive power, and the ability to glibly say "well, yes, but you would say that" to any response. It is an escalation of this discussion by several orders of magnitude, from a reasoned attempt to say "please stop" straight to "fuck off, you scumbag". I can't reply; I can't leave it hanging there.
I got it by email, sent both to me and to the list; it didn't get through, and I assumed it was moderated for one of the many possible reasons someone might object to its content. But you also, it seems, were sent a copy; you chose to send it here. And then you have the temerity to refer to a glib rewriting of my argument as "lacking in empathy ... wrong-headed and immoral".
I would have thought that would be better used to refer to the person who chose to equate me with a rape-apologist on some spurious analogy.
I had, seriously, hoped for better from this discussion. I don't *like* the fact that I had to stand up and complain; it's not the kind of man I am, and not the sort of thing I ever want to do again. But I felt it needed said, and there does not seem to be a shortage of others who feel just as frustrated by it.
I have tried to keep the discussion on a sensible level; I have tried patiently to explain my position and do so in what is as nonconfrontational a manner as possible, considering the rather uncomfortable nature of what I felt needed said. I am finding it hard to describe some of the responses as anything other than deliberately inflammatory.
Repeatedly telling people they should leave Wikipedia because stalkers and crazies are saying nasty things about them cannot help but be confrontational, no matter how many times you put the word "Please" before "leave".