Earlier: ... Gender relations falls apart when you start imputing misogynistic motives that were never there ...
Peter Blaise responds: You almost have it. I think the whole point is that, after a while, the misogyny, like any habit, is no longer a conscious effort, but is a seamless and unaware part of their interchange. The real struggle is trying to bring awareness to what has become an unaware habit, versus the ardent resistance to that attempted consciousness raising. Do not confuse consequences with intentions. Regardless of the intentions, aware or unaware, the effects stand on their own.