Part of the answer might be to encourage a succession of popular and
well proposed Commons RFCs moving beyond the polarization of "OMG
porn" vs. "OMG censorship".
Topics such as the OTRS discussion
<http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Commons:Requests_for_comment/OTRS_2012>
are reasonable and may result in useful changes in policy, not just on
Commons either. Perhaps we should create handy shortcuts for these
(like [[com:RFC6]] or somesuch) and keep plugging them in all related
more visible disputes and wonky inflammatory deletion review
discussions.
Sensible discussions might draw in more "stable" folks to consider
going for commons RFA too.
Cheers,
Fae