It may be easy to criticize me, because I communicate about the edit wars I am in. However, I think your criticism would be far more useful if directed at those who refuse to communicate.
Never in my history here at the wikipedia, never has someone replaced text of mine that was deleted -- thats either because my text isn't any good or because its really not that easy to tell that an edit conflict occurred (unless, of course, you revert and revert until it becomes very apparent that an edit war is occurring).
In any case, if you want to decrease the number of edit wars -- allow people to have two watchlists, so they can use one watchlist solely to watch articles at which they are involved in an "edit crisis". This will allow people the luxury of not having to worry that they will forget about the incident.
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