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Fri Sep 2 16:33:14 UTC 2011
they will never stop. So - in my case - ignore it works.
... but I - in your place - would remove the Userbox from the page, just in
case.
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On 13 November 2011 20:41, Christine Meyer <christinewmeyer gmail.com>wrote=
:
> I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia=
,
> but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A fe=
w
> weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me
> about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. =
He
> also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was
> busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later.
>
> Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my
> number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he
> read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wante=
d
> to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and h=
ad
> some "syndrome" that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't
> think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from "some church
> thing," and that they had confirmed my phone number.
>
> I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said=
,
> "Well, you said I could call you back!" I answered that I was in the
> middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropria=
te
> he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone.
> He said, "You said all that on Wikipedia," and I said that I didn't have =
my
> phone number there, to which he responded, "But your email address is
> there," and I said he could email me but calling me was again,
> inappropriate, and we hung up.
>
> Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even
> after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat
> disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hun=
t
> down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes
> stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities=
,
> that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes
> me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of
> calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my
> number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church
> committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh?
>
> I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens,
> especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband
> about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a
> particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. =
I
> can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now.
> I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to se=
e
> if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it.
>
> Thanks,
> Christine
> --
> Christine W. Meyer
> User: Figureskatingfan
> christinewmeyer gmail.com
>
>
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<font face=3D"arial,helvetica,sans-serif">Cristina,<br><br>I will not try t=
o give you any advice on this. But what I do in those cases (I already rece=
ived lots of threaning e-mails and some phone calls - also several wiki-att=
acks) and basically what I do is inform the ISP (in case when I know the IP=
adress) or block any call from that number (in case of phone calls). And b=
asically ignore it.<br>
<br>From my experience in pt.wiki, as long as you give them much attention,=
they will never stop. So - in my case - ignore it works.<br><br>... but I =
- in your place - would remove the Userbox from the page, just in case.<br =
clear=3D"all">
</font>_____<br><font style=3D"font-family:georgia,serif" size=3D"2"><i>B=
=E9ria Lima</i></font><br><a href=3D"http://wikimedia.pt" target=3D"_blank"=
>Wikimedia Portugal</a><br>
(351) 963 953 042<br>
<br><i style=3D"color:rgb(153,153,153)">Imagine um mundo onde =E9 dada a qu=
alquer pessoa a possibilidade de ter livre acesso ao somat=F3rio de todo o =
conhecimento humano. <a href=3D"http://wikimedia.pt/Donativos" target=3D"_b=
lank"><font color=3D"#333333">Ajude-nos a construir esse sonho.</font></a><=
/i><br>
<br><br><div class=3D"gmail_quote">On 13 November 2011 20:41, Christine Mey=
er <span dir=3D"ltr"><<a href=3D"mailto:christinewmeyer gmail.com">chris=
tinewmeyer gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br><blockquote class=3D"gmail_qu=
ote" style=3D"margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex=
;">
<div>I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wi=
kipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally=
.=A0 A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to t=
alk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special =
needs.=A0 He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him =
that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back =
later.</div>
<div>=A0</div><div>Yesterday afternoon, he called me back.=A0 I asked him w=
here he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status.=A0 He=
said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and t=
hat he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally di=
sabled and had some "syndrome" that I didn't recognize.=A0 (I=
t wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.)=A0 He also said that he ha=
d gotten my number from "some church thing," and that they had co=
nfirmed my phone number.=A0 </div>
<div>=A0</div><div>I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to cal=
l me, and he said, "Well, you said I could call you back!"=A0 I a=
nswered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, =
repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to s=
peak with him over the phone.=A0 He said, "You said all that on Wikipe=
dia," and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to whic=
h he responded, "But your email address is there," and I said he =
could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up.</di=
v>
<div>=A0</div><div>Like I said, it was the first time something like this h=
as happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP.=
=A0 It's somewhat disconcerting to me.=A0 When I think about it, this g=
uy had to actively=A0hunt down my phone number.=A0 He looked at my userpage=
, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with de=
velopmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I&=
#39;m Catholic.=A0 (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.)=A0 He ac=
tually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches =
in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly b=
ecause I'm on a church committee and active in the community.=A0 Freaky=
, huh?</div>
<div>=A0</div><div>I know that you need to tell people when something like =
this happens, especially people in your life.=A0 (I haven't been able t=
o tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we=
9;re coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.)=A0 So that&#=
39;s what I'm doing now.=A0 I can totally see why so many women don'=
;t identify their gender on WP now.=A0 I'd also like to get some advice=
from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar=
experience and what they did about it.</div>
<div><br clear=3D"all">Thanks,<br>Christine<br>--<br>Christine W. Meyer</di=
v><div>User: Figureskatingfan<br><a href=3D"mailto:christinewmeyer gmail.co=
m" target=3D"_blank">christinewmeyer gmail.com</a><br><br>
</div>
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