On 28/08/07, Marc Riddell <michaeldavid86(a)comcast.net> wrote:
Marc Riddell wrote:
> [...] The fact that anyone would even try to rationalize and/or
> justify saying to another person, "Go away, you trolling fuckwit" is
> symptomatic of the cancer that exists in the culture. [...]
on 8/28/07 2:09 PM, Stan Shebs at stanshebs(a)earthlink.net wrote:
This is just SO not true. Marc, as I believe
you've said yourself in the
past, you're not especially experienced with large collaborative online
projects. Trolls and other disrupters will keep poking and poking and
poking and poking and poking and poking and poking until even the most
patient of saints lose their cool - by definition, that is the goal. It
doesn't mean there is a cancer in the project, or that it's doomed, or
whatever, it just means that everybody has a breaking point. Of the
various online projects I've worked in the past 25 years, WP is by far
the most tolerant of troublemakers; on serious projects like GNU or
Linux, people won't even talk to you until you've proven yourself useful
somehow, and if you even slightly irritate one of the project owners,
you might as well as give up and move on to something else.
Stan,
No matter what the medium, how large or how small the group, any
interpersonal communication requires a degree of self-control. Know your
vulnerable spots. If someone is pushing them, and you don't like what it is
doing to you - move on. You have that choice (unless you're a prisoner
somewhere). But know, if you push back, you have now escalated, and become
part of, the problem.
It's not always so simple. Yes, you can quit a job at any time, but
if a guy is
hitting on you and groping you even after you say 'no', should you really end
up having to quit before you get fired? I tried avoiding him, he kept pushing,
the store manager wouldn't schedule us separately, or even avoid leaving us
alone together. I tried to protect his reputation. What I should've done is
slap him in the face the first time he tried to grope.
And suppose you leave but they continue attacking your reputation on a
website which often ranks number 1 on Google. Sound like a website you
know? And so, the trouble follows you, anywhere you are known by the
same name or pseudonym.
Play a doormat, and people may reciprocate by walking on you. Don't
play a doormat, and perhaps they will sledgehammer your heart, but
at least you tried.
A great part of the cancer I refer to is the attitude
of some persons in the
Community who not only condone, but actually encourage, the type of personal
attack statements that began this conversation. And, the practice of some of
calling names and labeling people they disagree with, rather than either
engaging them in the subject or moving on.
True, it is something of a societal problem.
Both of the above behaviors are ones we are supposed
to have left behind on
the playground.
Oh wow. I still occasionally get a person who decides to beat me up
because he or she in debt and wants someone to take it out on,
and I'm talking middle-aged folks. The insanity continues all life long.
The Project may be very large, but it is also very
young. And its ultimate
survival is going to depend on the ability of its people to communicate with
one another effectively.
Also, the double standard that has come to light as a result of this
incident is a subject for a whole other thread.
Marc
I don't find cross-site flame wars particularly effective. Perhaps
OTRS could be granted ambassadorial privilege?