I've been discussing the Medium.com story with some members of WMNYC tonight, and it's becoming apparent that the heckling did happen, pretty much as described, and that while no one thinks what happened that day was right, no one knows what to do about it, either. 

Wikimedia NYC has had some ongoing problems with women being treated oddly at their events (men staring/leering at women, and now men heckling women), and the chapter seems to be at a loss about how to deal with these issues at an institutional level. The best solution that's been tried so far has been targeted only at a particular person, with another man following the known ogler intending to intervene if he's noticed ogling, but of course men tend to quite understandably not be attuned to what behaviors make women uncomfortable, and people who are being watched tend to behave while being watched. At best, anyway, this solution can only address the behavior of a single person, and then only if a) we have the manpower to supervise the person and b) the watcher notices the behavior and c) the water actively intervenes to stop the behavior before it impacts an innocent meetup-goer or goers. This can't even begin to touch the issue of heckling or aggression toward women at a room- or meetup-level.

It's not enough. Wikimedia NYC is struggling with a lack of manpower at the best of times that makes it hard to have active moderation of events to prevent behavior like the heckling described in the Medium.com story and the unwanted attention I, among others, have been subjected to. There is also, in my personal view, a fair amount of institutional apathy from some - and only some, I want to make clear - of the chapter board and members which has made it difficult for anything to get done about this issues. I can't speak for other women in the chapter, but I've started staying away from events because I come away from them feeling...slimed.

Does anyone have experience implementing friendly space policies, especially in situations where volunteers numbers are extremely limited? How can we make these chapter meetups less offputting to women? If a chapter either can't or won't enforce friendly spaces for itself, is there any recourse above the chapter level?

-Fluff