Sarah.... Seriously.... When it comes to bullying... There are several options as to how
to answer it.
One is blahblahblah. It takes your time, it takes our time, it takes its toll on the
environment, and is bad on your health :)
When there is no bodily harm involved, I'd say to do just as with trolling. Let it go.
Do not answer. Do as if it did not exist. Have a drink and forget about it. Do not
escalate. Close your mind.
Do us the favor of thinking us able to filter out what is ridiculous and non sense from
what is relevant and meaningful criticism. Beria is capable of both. Take the second and
shut your mind from the first as most of us learnt to do ;)
Flo
Sent from my smartphone, wearing boxing gloves, so please, disregard any type mismatch.
On Dec 26, 2011, at 17:41, Sarah Stierch <sarah.stierch(a)gmail.com> wrote:
And one think is discuss something - even when people have different opinion than yours,
another completely different is play the "poor me, nothing I do is good" every
time someone has a criticism against your work.
I know I'm going to regret this, but, I can't be quiet anymore.
I apologize to this ENTIRE mailing list for this drama erupting, and I'm going to be
sending gender gap-l into my "special file" until my heart rate goes down. If
people want to talk to me, they can find me on IRC or in private email, today.
---
Beria, you're passive aggressive bullying behavior has reached my level of tolerance.
I was going to email you privately, but, I decided against that, as you like to publicly
share your feelings with the community, including specific people publicly.
I have previously stated it, the last thing I wish to do is flood the list with things
that are of no benefit or interest to the community. If me feeling bad about doing that is
a bad then, so be it, I'm just sick and tired of you repeatedly reminding me of how
I'm doing something wrong, and your declaration of "no one giving a fuck"
about what you have to say because you aren't a fellow or you aren't a staff
member is equally passive aggressive. I worked my butt off for this fellowship, and a
fellowship with WMF is something I have been exploring and trying to develop for almost
two years now. I'm honored to have it, beyond words. Anyone can apply to be a fellow
Beria, and passively declaring that no one cares about you because you aren't paid, is
just a mean slap in the face of everyone who works hard at WMF and as volunteers. And
remember, there are chapter people who get paid to do their jobs, also.
And this isn't just about me - you've done it to a lot of people. People I
consider friends and colleagues, and people I don't even know well.
I'm tired of having to worry about the things I post on this list, Internal-L, and
Foundation-L, being to your disapproval. I'm also tired of the "monthly wait for
what Beria will say to someone that will cause drama on a mailing list" situation.
While I'm sure others greatly appreciate your attitude, I don't, and others do not
as well. Your behavior and bullying (which is defined here:
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/bullying) makes me have little to desire to participate in
mailing list discussions, and even less desire to even consider attending a conference
that you are co-planning. Which is something, civility, we touch on here on this mailing
list, as being a deterrent for people wanting to participate in projects.
This isn't the first time that I've actively, and publicly asked you to stop
behaving like this.
The goal of this list isn't to just "talk" about wanting to make changes,
it's about making changes. Whether they are online, in any language project, or
offline, through outreach, programming, edit-a-thons, and whatnot. I talk my talk and I
walk my walk, and I know others here do too (and I try to share those projects when they
are brought to my attention). And if me being "too sensitive" or me "caring
too much" or "me being paid" is a deterrent to us moving the meter (aka
closing the gap) then I guess I'm the worst representative for the gender gap
movement.
Beria - I'm not going to argue with you about this, I'm not going to ask you to
ever like me, be my bestfriend, or make an exception. I just want you to stop bullying me,
others, and learn how your words affects others before you type them. I can handle
criticism, when it's constructive. Not when it's rude, insensitive, unprofessional
and at times attacking.
and on another note, regarding language:
I only share what I know, and sadly, I have a permanent off switch in my head that makes
it tough for me to learn other languages (and no, Google Translate does not count as
quality accessibility), so when I can only talk for English Wikipedia, I only post about
English Wikipedia. We've never called this list an English only list, I encourage
people to participate in all languages, so please, please please do.
I apologize to everyone for making this a big freaking mess, but, I'm tired of this.
Absolutely tired of it. Tired to the point where I have had trouble sleeping - I mean what
the hell is that about?
Sarah
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