Other highlights:
From the list of "creepy" behavior
Laughing at inappropriate times
Talking too much about a topic
Displaying too much or too little emotion
Smiling peculiarly
Having excessively pale skin
Having bags under their eyes
and then
Here’s the thing: not being creepy *isn’t that hard*.
Many of the examples of creepy behavior listed in the
Knox University
study could be avoided throughbasic social calibration
<http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2012/10/art-social-calibration/all/1/> and
being aware of the other person’s signals.
Setting aside that a lot of Wikipedians don't have "basic social
calibration", a lot of these behaviors are uncontrollable in general. If
you're "suggesting that Wikipedia editors display aberrant behavior which
prospective female editors find creepy, making it less likely that they
will contribute?", as another has proposed, a lot (but not all) of these
"creepy traits" that allegedly make women less likely to contribute are
uncontrollable by those who have them. I need to stop smiling peculiarly?
What does that mean? And if we want to attract women to Wikipedia by
removing creepy people, does that mean I might get banned due to me talking
"too much" about a certain topic?
On May 10, 2016 12:25 PM, "Nathan" <nawrich(a)gmail.com> wrote:
It boils down to "people with aberrant behavior
or bearing produce anxiety
in women." This is drawn from a Facebook survey. It's interesting, even if
the "study" doesn't really produce any more knowledge than most other
Facebook surveys.
The link to the problem of addressing Wikipedia's gendergap seems tenuous;
are you suggesting that Wikipedia editors display aberrant behavior which
prospective female editors find creepy, making it less likely that they
will contribute?
On Tue, May 10, 2016 at 12:01 PM, Neotarf <neotarf(a)gmail.com> wrote:
A study published in the journal New Ideas in
Psychology, unfortunately
behind a paywall, reviewed by Dr. NerdLove. [1]
Some highlights:
*"*So we’re not allowed to give women compliments? – *No, telling a
woman how sexy she is isn’t a compliment, especially when you don’t have
that level of intimacy with her."
*"One of the keys to what made someone creepy was the potential for
ambiguity. The study’s authors suggest that because one’s creep-radar is
keyed towards finding potential threats, the ambiguousness of somebody’s
behavior could make people uncomfortable. After all, if you’re continually
wondering if this person actually poses a threat to you, you’re left in a
state of anxious paralysis; you’re continually on edge trying to determine
just what the appropriate reaction to the situation is. Guessing wrong can
have consequences, after all; misjudge a potential threat and now you’ve
made yourself vulnerable to someone who means you harm."
*"One of the most common ways guys are creepy is by ignoring issues of
boundaries and demonstrating that they have more information about somebody
than they should." Example from Instagram: He: "So I take it you're
staying
at the Excalibur?" She: "Excuse me, do you not seriously realize how
f*cking creepy it is for a stranger to message a woman out of the blue
insinuating he knows where she is?"
*From the comments: "Someone who comes close to that line and manages not
to cross it obviously knows where it is."
[1]
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2016/05/the-science-of-being-creepy/
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