It is remarkable that, when faced with a gap of this nature, that one could come to the conclusion that it is not a gender issue, as if it were merely that millions (billions?) of members of one social class had individual difficulties dealing with members of another social class and that for some strange and unknowable reason these difficulties did not flow in the other direction. Is the solution mass therapy?<br>
<br>Do I have the same problem in person? Yes, I, like many women, have been socialized since toddlerhood to defer to men, to play subservient roles and to withhold my opinions if they are controversial. I, like many women, have had terrible things happen to me merely because I am a woman. I bring this all with me when I sit down to edit. That there are exceptional women who, either from not having had these experiences or have been able to over come them, are able to successfully negotiate a world made for men does not mean that the many women like me are not real or important. <br>
<br>There is a problem, not a "problem". <br><br>Nepenthe<br><br><br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Wed, Mar 16, 2011 at 3:58 PM, Marc Riddell <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:michaeldavid86@comcast.net">michaeldavid86@comcast.net</a>></span> wrote:<br>
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<b>From: </b>Marc Riddell <<a href="mailto:michaeldavid86@comcast.net" target="_blank">michaeldavid86@comcast.net</a>><br>
<b>Date: </b>Wed, 16 Mar 2011 16:49:32 -0400<br>
<b>To: </b>Laura Hale <<a href="mailto:laura@fanhistory.com" target="_blank">laura@fanhistory.com</a>><div class="im"><br>
<b>Subject: </b>Re: [Gendergap] Proposal: Forking gendergap: Main list for women and transgender, sublist for male supporters<br>
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Laura, your interpretation of my words is strikingly self-serving, and your solutions would serve to widen whatever gap exists in the Project. This entire "problem" is not one of gender, but of individual persons having problems communicating with a particular group of other persons. My question to all of those who state that they have a problem communicating with, or feel intimidated by, a male in the venue of a mailing list such as this, is do you have the same problem in person? There are many, many strong, intelligent voices in the Wikipedia Project who also happen to be female. And to include them in this "gendergap", and suggest that this is strictly a gender issue, is an insult to them.<br>
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on 3/16/11 4:06 PM, Laura Hale at <a href="mailto:laura@fanhistory.com" target="_blank">laura@fanhistory.com</a> wrote:<br>
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On Wed, Mar 16, 2011 at 11:42 PM, Marc Riddell <<a href="mailto:michaeldavid86@comcast.net" target="_blank">michaeldavid86@comcast.net</a>> wrote:<br>
<blockquote>This is simply, nonsense! <br>
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That is your opinion, and you're welcome to it. In my experience, there are two general groups of women:<br>
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1. One who welcome men as participants in events specifically targeting women, because the women feel the men can learn.<br>
2. One who don't want men involved because they feel women should work towards their own self interests and that women behave differently around men.<br>
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<blockquote>Don't you people realize that separating this List<br>
into two distinct ones would underline, reinforce and actually signify the<br>
very "gendergap" you are allegedly trying to resolve.<br>
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This pretty much is why I think we need men off the list. While you're intending to or not, I'm reading this as "Don't you understand that the only way women can succeed it by having men involved! You need men!" If you're not intending to send the message: Women cannot succeed with out men!, then you may want to reconsider your wording.<br>
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And I'd argue the opposite: Men have done an awful job at recruiting women to be involved with Wikipedia. The current problems exist because men have tried to "solve" this problem.<br>
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<blockquote>This is people talking<br>
with people. If there is a female or male here who has a problem<br>
communicating with, or in the presence of, another gender - they do have a<br>
problem.<br>
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Translation: "Women! You're the problem! If you could stop engaging in female modes of communication, we could fix this problem! "<br>
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This list is NOT a general list for increasing the participation rates of people. If you want to have a list dedicated to generally increasing the participation rates of people on Wikipedia, then fork off and do that.<br>
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<blockquote> But a website Mailing List such as this is not the place to resolve<br>
it.<br>
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Am I supposed to interpret this as you claiming that this list has a mission that will never succeed because it acknowledges there are gender differences and different approaches are needed to get different audiences? As a woman, a representative of a minority group on Wikipedia, how am I supposed to respond to you? I can tell you that this post of yours makes me feel distinctly uncomfortable posting to this list. It seems to put men in the position of power above women, demanding that women participate only in male modes of communication, that women on the list can't talk about genuine concerns they have as women because they are going to get blown off, and that feelings of men on the list are more important then women.<br>
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