Steven Walling wrote:
1. You're wrong. Just today I myself received some
kind words offlist, but
related to a thread. Just because you're not getting the air of friendliness
you desire (at this moment anyway), doesn't mean friendliness doesn't exist.
Getting friendly words offlist, says nothing about the list. I'm sure
that we all are more friendly with some than with others, so there's
nothing unusual about private messages. It's much easier to say
something to someone privately; there is less risk of needing to defend
every point that you are raising, less risk that some detail might be
taken adversarially.
2. It's a mailing list for discussion and debate,
not an outlet for personal
validation. If you don't like being debated and disagreed with, then don't
post your opinions on something. I personally find asking questions rather
than making statements tends to garner a gentler response, if you're in need
of one.
Conflationist nonsense! One of the problems is precisely that those who
don't like being bullied don't post, because that shuts out an entire
range of opinions from those who are more thoughtful than loud. There's
a problem with just asking questions too. If what you want is a dose of
paternalistic pablum, that's exactly what you'll get. Attend a
political (or some other) speech that is followed by a "question
period", and there is an implicit social barrier between you and the
speaker. If you know he's wrong you still have to concede that he is in
a position to shout louder.
3. All mailing lists are at times more hostile than
any real life
conversation. It's far from unique to Wikimedia lists, and I've seen
*far*more angry flame wars on other mailing lists. If it's a problem
of the
medium of mailing lists and not of Wikimedian culture, then there's nothing
we could change about our culture that would make a mailing list more
friendly. I for one see us as already going out of our way to try and be a
culture that welcomes open discussion free of insulting behavior.
It's not just mailing lists. Perhaps our worst offenders don't even
participate in the mailing lists. Mailing lists are certainly less
hostile than those in-your-face real life situations that encourage
violence. Perhaps too, those who shout here wouldn't have the courage
to express their real feelings in person to their opponents. Going out
of one's way is primarily a reflection of individual efforts, and we do
have some such individuals. It doesn't generalize well into a community
effort.
Ec
On Mon, Jun 29, 2009 at 7:01 PM, Nathan <nawrich(a)gmail.com> wrote:
> The most significant problem, Virgilio, is that there isn't too much people
> on this list can do. Unless and until problems become so clear that steward
> or Foundation action are obviously called for, there is unlikely to be much
> concrete action at all. Since we can't impose a solution to the problems
> you've identified from afar, and most of us can neither verify these
> problems nor participate in fixing them without speaking the language...
> What else should we do?
>
> You're right, though, that exchanges on this list aren't always very
> friendly. Maybe because very few discussions are actually productive, and
> outside of cooperative effort most friendly exchanges are more likely to be
> taken off-list.
>
> Nathan
>